Date: February 13
Category: Marriage and Relationships
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not embarrassed or ashamed in each other's presence."
These verses talk about marriage and the marriage act. Chapter 2 is prominent in Genesis because it is about the creation of man. One of the key things to notice in the creation of man is the creation of a woman. God wanted to create someone who would be a helper in accordance to the man, and He wanted both man and woman to be united and become one flesh. With these verses, I want to focus on the three things that need to happen for a man and a woman to be married.
The first requirement is the man has to leave his father and mother. When a man wants to marry, he has to leave his parents and establish his own home. He has to start his own family and pay his own bills. A man can't just bring his wife to his parents' home and keep her there. It won't work. He has to find his own place. So that's the first thing that needs to happen.
The second thing that needs to happen is the man must connect himself with his wife. It says that he has to unite himself or cleave to his wife. When a man marries, he can't just live the way he did before he got married. He has to spend time with his wife. She becomes his first friend, his best friend. She becomes the most important person in his life after Jesus Christ. So, he has to cleave to his wife – not to his golf clubs, his basketball net, his business, or his parents, but to his own wife.
As a married man, your wife belongs to your future. You can't live the way you did before you married. Now you have to consider your wife, her feelings, her words, her thoughts, and her desires. You have to listen to every caution she gives and make decisions together in agreement. When you do that, you'll make better choices. You will be happier; your wife will be happier, and your children will be happier. Your wife is your best friend and counselor after Jesus Christ. So, that's the second thing that happens. You have to cleave to your wife.
The third thing that has to happen in marriage is the act of becoming one flesh. Becoming one flesh means having sexual intercourse. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you have intercourse when you are married. As a married couple, you do not have to be ashamed of each other's bodies nor do you have to be ashamed of sex.
The only time a married couple can't have sex is when the wife is on her period and two days after for cleansing purposes. All other times, they can have sex. A husband has to be considerate. He has to be nice to his wife throughout the day, not just in the evening when he wants to have sex with her. If a man is mean to his wife and talks negatively to her and suddenly wants to have sex, she's not going to want to. Women cannot have sex like that. Women need love and attention.
So those are the three things that a man needs to do for marriage. First, he needs to leave his parents. Secondly, he has to unite and cleave to his wife, and thirdly, he has to consummate the marriage.