WHO TO MARRY?
Date: February 10
Category: Marriage and Relationships
"He shall take a wife in her virginity. A widow or a divorced woman or a woman who is polluted or profane or a harlot, these he shall not marry, but he shall take as his wife a virgin of his own people."
It's interesting that God has something to say about who to marry and who not to marry. This is a teaching for the priests at the time, but we can learn from this teaching even today. God says here that you should take a wife in her virginity, meaning a wife who has never had sex. Then God says that you should not marry a widow, a divorced woman, a woman who is polluted or profane, or a harlot. In other words, a priest should not marry any woman that is not a virgin.
This teaching can be applied to women as well. A woman should not marry a widower, a divorced man, a polluted or profane man, or a male harlot. God repeats Himself twice in these verses when he says that we should take a virgin as our spouse. People who have already had sex with someone else have developed a physical, sexual, and intimate relationship with that other person. A part of them is connected to that person. So when you meet someone who has already had sex, that part of themselves cannot be connected with you. That often causes hardships in marriage. The rate of divorce among people who have already been married before is higher than those who have never been married.
Sexuality is holy. It is only for a husband and a wife. It is beautiful in marriage, but it doesn't belong before marriage or outside of marriage. God is teaching us here that you shouldn't marry anyone except someone who is a virgin.
Let's say, for example, your spouse passed away and you would like to re-marry. My advice to you is the same commandment God gives us in these passages – to marry someone who has never been married. The second best choice is to marry a widow, somebody who has been married but their spouse died. The last option is to marry someone who has been divorced. So no matter what situation you're in, you should still obey these guidelines that God lays out in these passages. After your decision to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, your decision on who to marry is the most important decision you will make. It determines the rest of your life. So examine all that God says about marriage in the Word of God and make the right decision.